True....when I do something nice, kind, and good to someone else, I feel so good! =) We need more random acts of kindness daily to anyone who needs it including self. ;)
Yes... we all are bullies and victims at one or more times in our lives. I wonder how deep influence our actions impact other people we interact with. What hurts the most is the failure to acknowledge of the parents' admiting that their own children are not perfect... I say my kids are not perfect and I make my kids aware that whatever they decide to do a negative thought or a negative action, it leaves a scar.
No parents like to admit that their children are bullies or victims. God only knows what happened to Cho when he was growing up... I have no anger at Cho, just mostly sadness that somehow we failed him.
The main responsibility starts at home... setting an example for our children.
These children who committed murders in their schools were reported to be heavily bullied and rejected by their peers. More school officials, realizing that bullying isn't the harmless rite of passage previously thought, are taking active measures to combat bullying. Obviously they need to be more proactive. Parents also need to supervise their children and be quick to stop any bullying. The parents also need to watch their own behavior, since often children imitate them.
Acts of kindness do go a long way and we all need to do this more often to our family, friends, and acquaintances.
There is a family who ***HATES*** my family... why I don't know... only mother and her two kids. Father is nice. I had not seen them for months and I thought there was an opportunity to make peace, move on... the mother was very cold, snubbing me. I had to wave in her face to say hi... and I was like, come on, hatred is a waste of emotion, but she still chooses to hate us. Her children despise my children also... I waved at them, and they stuck their nose in the air and walked past us. My 6 year old daughter looked at me and asked why they were so mean to us. I said it was easier to be mean than to be kind for certain people and that there was nothing we could do about it.
So I know that it is the families who pass down the emotions and the philosophies. Some people have no problems with prejudices and reflect on the children, such as bullying, etc. So have "villages" to raise children is often a challenging task, but can be done when we acknowledge we are prejudged, etc., but desire to arise above it and be willing to take a risk to be open to love, respect, generous, etc. The openness scares us... makes us look and feel vulnerable and that is where we get hurt the most.
I have been taking the risks with my children... NOT to hate. NOT to judge. Etc. I just feel sad that other families don't see that, that they are fine until disasters hit.
Believe me, my family has its share of disasters so I know life is full of risks and sometimes not fair. It is how we choose to live.
You are right. We need to look at ourselves and be aware of our role in perpetuating an environment in which these kinds of things happen. It is always easier to blame things on others -- not to take responsibility. Nice vlog!
Wow, I was floored and goose bumped! You have made the most awesome clarification of "A World in Need of Love"! Some of you may not realize the reality when you "point a finger at someone else" you are more likely to be pointed at three times more than you have pointed at someone else, why? When your finger is pointing at someone else, how many fingers are pointing at yourself? 3! Saying something positive or negative is a powerful contagious. Keep it rolling with VLOGs, Jill!
I am continuing to keep influencing others with my smiles, and tell the "hello's" and "how are you?" to strangers, the more I do this, I felt stronger.
I would like to ask you directly, did the family tell you that they hate you with the words. Sometimes people snub at one another because they feel very hurt and cannot talk to the person. Sometimes we assume that whenever the person does not want to say hi, we immediately think that this person hates us. We have a lot of assumptions and sometimes they are not true. We could find out but sometimes we cannot and it is lingering in our minds and that makes us feel uncomfortable not knowning why this person snubbed at us. For what??
You either have to decide if you still want to pursue that friendship with this family or decide to cut ties with them. If your children want to be friends with this family's friends, then I can see how hard it can be.
I think sometimes we need a lesson in friendship and how to forgive and move on. I notice that sometimes whenever we make mistakes, people hold on it and dwell for a long time and not want to be friends with you, you feel as if you have made an enemy with them. I'm not sure if it happens in the hearing world or not.
Perhaps maybe we all could learn what makes a good friend and how to be a good friend even though we may disagree or whatever.
Yes, they did tell us they wanted a war with my family (face to face.) I emailed to the mother, asking to sit down and talk with her, several times, but she avoided answering my emails; instead she called my children liars, etc... that was last fall. I even apologized for any wrongdoings I might have done. My son wrote an email to her, apologizing and asking to be friends with the children who rejected his apology. The problem is their shildren who keeps saying that my children were mean to them (my daughter is 6 years old, a tiny girl, and my son attended ISD for a short time before going mainstreaming and he avoided them like a plaque, and their kids are 13 and 9 years old, bigger than my kids.) ISD informed me that the mother made a lot of reports against my children in the past year. I recently learned that they also made enemies of another family, so I realized it is not us... it is them.
My concern is how long the mother and the children would carry grudge against people they don't like.
Either I cut the ties... I am human and I see people human beings, so I naturally say hello and have small talks, let bygones be bygones.
Remember where Love come from? Love come from God. God is Love. Jesus Loves everyone no matter who are they. John 3:16/ We should love them as we love Jesus. Amen!
Good message, Jill. Althought I knew you at Gallaudet, I never knew you became a reverend. Congrats, Jill. While I am not into religion, but your message was inspiring and just what we need!
I will share some of this in my vlog. From a teacher's perspective. A lot of correlation to what Mishka Zena said.
I am guilty of my own errors that has caused some upsetting feelings!
I do try to recognize them and rectify my actions.
Children are the product of the environment - especially in school because they spend more time there than at home.
So relationships with the teachers are critical.
The first two years of our oldest son's middle schools were just awful.
Attitudes were terrible on both sides - us and the teachers based on my son.
It got worse and worse.
This year? Much better although he still fails his classes but MY attitudes towards the teachers and the administration has improved greatly. I even saw the former assistance principal that I often got into arguments with for threatening my son at the hair salon yesterday, teasing him about his haircut and should go bold and be bald! He laughed and you could see his blue eyes glowing! :D
As a result, there is no stress or ill feelings on both sides.
Instead of finger-pointing and complaining - we try to come up with solutions for him.
It's not easy when you have a smart teenage kid who generally thinks people suck and school is useless.
But we keep trying anyway. Our other children are very kind, loving and considerate people.
But when they hit middle school - things change very rapidly.
Attitude is a big key.
Karen - I am SO sorry you had to go through that. No one should go through that.
Unfortunately after attempts have been made - the only thing you can do for your children is to cut your ties with them but no personal attacks on them. It hurts knowing they would talk nasty behind your back and through their children.
No one should be telling you HOW to raise your children like that stranger deaf mother at the mall.
You are just as valuable as the rest of us, so don't give up your blogging/vlogging.
I just needed a break because of negatives filling up in my heart and I knew that is NOT good for the deaf community.
I need to step back and re-analyze myself - my thoughts and feelings.
Basically what happened in VA was bascially "sin". We are all sinners. Bible teaches No, not one is good on earth. We born sin and we hate God. We must realize it is our origin sin and we need to be saved through Christ alone. Jesus defeated the power of sin by dying and raising from death. What happened in Va is basically this man who shot people is sinner just like us. We are all sinners.
"The Golden Rule" is best reminder for every human being to recite every day in the morning: "Do unto others as they do unto us." If everyone practices it, we would see no hate around us."
On another note, I wish you were seen around much more often as humanly as possible. We need Deaf Oprah.
Your comment makes sense. I agree that we are all created to serve and be served in unselfish love. Many of us forgot about it. It is easy for us to give it up. We need to remind ourselves about it every second!!!
Thank you so much for sharing yours with us all. We need to be reminded occasionally.
I am so sorry to learn about your experience. I saw your kids in your last vlogs. They are so wonderful kids.
About the family trying to hurt you and your family in many ways, I am glad you alrady made them aware that they are always welcome to you and your family. It's up to them to come or not.
I am sorry about your recent incident that made you decide not to use blog and vlog. I really enjoyed reading yours. Hope one day you will!
My eyes are filled with tears and my heart is filled with inspiration. Sigh ... in my work I see so much violence, and we do need more people like you. Thank you for sharing your gift of love.
Please look at the messages from Jesus Chirst's ambassdor Jane Bielfeldt Deafsign
They are telling so TRUTH!! Amen!
Jill is giving a false testimony. She is defintely need recollect why,where,how,what,and why is she doing this. I pray for her to see the whole truth very soon. I m more than happy to explain the clear message from the Bible.
Jill, what you say was very much in harmful not a harmony for everyone. God still is loving and waiting for you to ask his beloved son (Jesus Christ) as you personal savior. I Timothy 2:5
Hi Jill.. Thank you so much for educating us. You did a good job! I am gay and I've been suffering all my life from the bullies. I forgive them, know they are confuse, some church teach them to hate us. Thanks once again. You're beautiful!
You made me goose bumps! Oh, yes! We need to get together to work for the best education for our Deaf children!
You did touched my heart! Thank you so much for expressing this WORLD IN NEED OF LOVE!!! It takes a village to get the Deaf children to have good education by respect, listen to their hearts, mind and spirit!
I really really really enjoyed watching your vlog. Many good, inspiring, encouraging points! You know how to reach many of us. That is important. I like the way you explained things which have held my attention. Clear and meaningful.
We are all human and try to think and do things positively and move on despite negativism lurking or floating around in the deaf community. Too often, deaf people listen to twisted /wrong information and gossip instead of checking for any truth. We learn to ignore or avoid put-downs, negative criticisms, and silent treatments... You have opened a door that has given us a lot of hope and encouragement. Positivism is very powerful. Look forward to seeing more of your vlogs AND John's humorous vlogs!!! You both are very fortunate to have each other. smile
If you want to do what you want to do, please feel free to set up your own blog/ vlogsite. Keep in mind it is Jill's blogssite. It is the way she does to reach us. Thank you.
I saw and read your comments... It sure hurts when someone refuses to sit down and sort out the differences with you. I went through the same experiences with a few negative persons in our deaf community. It is very painful when you couldn't achieve a closure or resolve a problem before you could move on.... Some one told me. It is THEIR problem so I had to move on...
And I really enjoy your blogs/ vlogs and love you so much for the way you respect your two children's wishes. It was the same thing when I wanted to leave a residential school for the deaf and to be with my family, and my parents respected my wish. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was much happier at home than at the residential school for the deaf. Hope we will see more of your vlogs and blogs.
JILL, WELL SAID AND BEAUTIFUL! IF YOU HAVE TIME, CHECK INTO THE POEM, "DO YOU KNOW THE WORLD IS DYING FOR A LITTLE BIT OF LOVE?" BY EDWARD O. EXCELL. IT GOES WELL WITH WHAT YOU SAID. AGAIN,JILL IT WAS WELL SAID AND BEAUTIFUL JAY
I agree with Susan. We cannot love one another without God. Impossible. We are sinners. No one wants to love one another or love God. God sent his Son, Jesus to die and take our sins so we can have the eternal life. Through Christ, we learn to love others and have grace for others. The scripture says no one can do nothing without Christ alone.
Christ Alone can enable us to understand love.
Jill, I challenge you look in His Word to be sure. His word is inspiring more than earthy love.
yes yes yes excatly what happen to me i was warning to old friends dont doing it... there is go... fact look at chao what happen... i remmy i was happy almost five years ago and i was angry... myself dont beleive picky on people cause the word "picky" can leaf volient (wrong spell ) smile.... true we need change and be love next door... thank u for your speaking to us.... we love u!!! smile scott d burley
I learned that in America, we all are allowed to have guns as long as we are 18, register and practice shooting then voila! We get the gun! While in other country, guns are strictly banned except to those who are in the military. How sad is that?! Which means, any one could simply walk in the gun store and buy one! My opinion, the age 18 should change to, maybe, 30's depending on his/her maturity (I mean emotionally AND mentally).
Thank you so much for spreading this out...it reminds us of love the whole world once had.
Gun Control Law won't work because if the guns are outlawed, only the outlaws will have guns, thus making the gun-less people sitting ducks.
All colleges and universities in Utah the teachers and students are allowed to carry concealed guns to classes, etc. Had the students at Va Tech been allowed to carry concealed guns, the magnitude of tragedy would have been much, much smaller.
The trouble with America is that it is on border with lawless Mexico. The smugglers bring in drugs and illegal guns. Mentally unfit people and criminal-minded/felonious people buy guns from those smugglers, which makes the Gun Control Law unworkable.
Gun Control Law works effectively in Great Britain because it has the sea all around it, which makes extremely difficult for smugglers to bring in illegal guns.
To sum 'em up, EVERYONE needs JESUS, the one who loves us all.
HI~TAT'S BEAUTIFUL!BUT THERES MORE QUESTIONS THAT CAN NOT BE ANSWERS AT ALL! AS WELL I WORKED WITH PEOPLE for LONGEST TIME N STILL DO. ITS JUST THE MENTALLY ITSELF THAT BOND DEPENDS WHERE YO AT. REMEMBER THAT WE ARE NOT PERFECT<<< BUT WE JUST KEEP TRY OUR BEST TO REACH OUT THEIR LOVE~ IT'S NOT THAT EASY!!! CUZ CUZ THAT'S THE WAY IT GOES BY!! ~;>)---- GOD BLESS YO TO SHARIN OUT WORLD!! IT DOES CHILL ME...
Jill, your vlog about love is the most powerful, beautiful, and smooth message that u share with us all. About Cho, I empathy him and only God know what chaused him to do things like that. My believe is that society has failed him because he has been screaming for help and we ingore him. I sure hope this example will wake all of us up and change our behavior and thinking toward others and be kind to each other that way we all will live better. Keep up good work, Jill.
Interesting to listen what did you tell us and I agree about gun,volience, fight,lack of law regualtion in USA/Canada! We still help each other and love each other and for frusate people to be risk unless we may listen to them for possibly life.
Yes, Jill. It's either love or fear. Whenever anyone thinks, speaks (signs), or acts with fear, that person is crying for love.
Speaking of love -- I wonder how many people have thought about what love really means. We talk about the qualities of love, such as patience, forgiveness, compassion, kindness, gentleness, generosity, goodness, acceptance, non-judgement, openness,etc. But exactly what is love? I think that just about everyone of us think of love as a feeling, but is that it?
I've come across two definitions that have really helped broaden my understanding of love and our Oneness -- our being one with the Divine Creator , and I would like to share them with you all. Love is defined as a "unifying force" as well as "divine power." Since we are all divine (one in Spirit) and love is our true nature, we have the power to create harmony/unity when we think, say, or do with love. With love, we create miracles. A simple example is smiling at someone, and that someone's face lit up -- and I'm lifted, too. There's a moment of feeling oneness in both of us. That moment of connectedness is God. Remember God is love -- and we, in God's image, are also love.. That moment of connectedness is heaven. It is unity. It is love. What I do unto another person, I do unto myself because we're one. Seeing yourself in another person and treating that person equally is love. A unifying experience! I guess I could ramble on, but I won't. Smile.
Love and peace to you all.
Namaste,
Hilda
PS Here's another quote from Deepak Chopra about love: "The essence of love isn't a feeling -- it is a state of being. Or to be more exact, it is a state in which you are in contact with Being."
PSS Helen Schuchman, a clinical psychologist, was the scribe of ACIM. She did not claim it to be her work. It was an inner dictation from Jesus. At first, she did not want to admit it, but finally she did admit that it was so. In case anyone is interested, there's a book about her life and her experience in scribing ACIM. The title of the book is Absence from Felicity by Kenneth Wapnick.
Decades ago, my father and I talked about love (you know, birds and bees) and he said that while love could be an emotion, it was also an action. Kindness, gentleness, caring, peace, etc., are all actions of love. If we don't act on them, we lose love.
Good morning Karen and all, Another food for your thought on love by Thomas Merton -- I got this from a friend recently. "Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone - we find it with another." ~Thomas MertonI drink Yogi tea sometimes. Each teabag always has a string with a little tag attached to it. On each tag there's word of spiritual wisdom printed on it. Recently I read one that said: "We live for others." In ACIM, it is emphasized that every relationship (any kind of connection) we have with everyone is a holy encounter. What I do to another is what I do unto myself and God. Everyone of us is sacred (our spiritual selves that have existed with God from the beginning). We're all connected -- inseparable. If we all could see this and practice love, heaven would be here on earth.
Hilda... that reminds me of the movie I recently saw "The Celestine Prophecy"... that there is heaven on the earth if we only knew how to achieve it and that there are many people who prevent it from happening...
Hi Jill-- So good to see you since I saw you couple of years ago and you still look great :-) Yes, I agree that the world needs LOVE, LOVE, LOVE. Our former neighbor created the problems on us for about 4 years and that put us very stressful and our kids showing emotions until they had to move out due to divorce. Now I notice that we are more relaxed and happy that there was no problems between them and us. Shortly after they had to transfer one of their daughters to different school, I learned that their mom told that daughter that (I can not quote exactly what the mother said but from what I understand) that next Monday was her first day at another new school and that daughter could not talk with black kids at all. That made me realize that she was a racist which means she has another "hateful" for deafies??? (same thing) and I wonder what if that daughter had a black teacher and she could not talk to her at all that would make things worse for daughter, mother and school. Yes, for guns...I have a fear if anyone plays with it no matter what. Jill, I hope to see you again in person real soon. Take care..CJ
Karen, how was the movie "The Celestine Prophecy?" I read the book long time ago, but I haven't seen the movie, yet. Achieve heaven on earth?? This will happen when we all realize and accept who we really are. We are not who we are physically in form today; we are spiritual beings inseparable from the Great Spirit from the beginning walking on earth in physical forms. When we realize it and accept this as our true identity, we have no need to fear anymore. With this self-realization, our perception changes and love prevails. Then we experience heaven on earth. It is not work that we must do to achieve it. It is awakening to our true nature of divinity and reclaiming it. Oh, so you drink green tea, too. Let's get together and have green tea someday. Smile. Namaste, Hilda
For our Beautiful Love, Wow, your spiritual comment for world in need of love is a powerful message.... how you share your love and peaceful thoughts about what/why we are responsible for chaos and what/H.O.W. we can do to transform from hatred to LOVE are so intoxicating... I cried when I watched you...Thank you John for suggesting us to watch her vlog... Thank you GOD for creating you as DEAF people to share love kindness and peace, we as DEAF people are in Need to Learn all about your words of LOVE in sign language..if you were hearing, I would MISS the important message! This is what John is trying to tell us in his UNITY the community vlog... Thank you Jill (my Lora) and John for being REAL. H.O.W. we cultivate the world with LOVE? By Honest OpenMindness Willingness to forgive ourselves and everyone for the wrongs and the hurt, we do it sometimes when we are stressed, frustrated, angry, put down, but always can forgive and start again this is where LOVE grows. When we do it, keep the Forgiveness and LOVE in our mind, heart, and body. Practice daily. It only takes 10 mins every morning and 10 mins every night out of 24 hours..Thats all it takes! Forgive Cho for hurting us but we begin with forgiving ourselves first then the Peace will begin. I am so grateful to have you in my spiritual journey and I hope there will be many more footsteps coming our way. "Until we meet again, I will hold my tears of LOVE" Namaste, Sheri XO
thank you for a strong message. too many people put the blame everywhere else but themselves. We need to look in the mirror and start with outselves. It is never alright to bring down another human being to make ouselves feel good. We must respect and accept everyone for who they are and do no harm. It is time for people to be responsible for their own selves.
There were some times that I put other people down and there were some times that other people put me down. Some of the grudges in between them and myself have not been solved.
Your message made me think about what I need to do to forgive them and to give love, no matter what.
This is a very powerful message and everyone need to watch this vlog.
When my friend sent me your blog. You made me reazlie a lot of things what s happening around here. I am a single mother and deaf. I have a 8 years old daughter. I teach her about the love, attitude, respect and life. Also I recently lost a close friend and how can I continue being friendship with my close friend?? Her boyfriend dosent let us seeing each others no more and I feel that he is punishing me for the everything I did wrong to them but I felt that it was not my fault 100% and just happened that way. I wish to ask him to change his mind and let me continue my friendship with his girlfriend. Tell me how can I do that??
You North Americans have a strange concept of morality. You allow your children to watch the most vile and disgusting violence, yet get upset if the same children are exposed to the sight of a woman's breasts. You encourage then to play with toys that mimic warfare and destruction, but ban the concept of sex education in your schools. You teach them that sex for pleasure is evil, but explain to me why you have the worst incidences of sex related crimes in the world. You teach them to show no tolerance to people that are "different", sexually, racially, philosophically. Your children grow up unwilling to learn about others, to learn that the differences in people are what make them special. You attack that which you don't understand and are not willing to understand. I feel pity for these people, not contempt, as I realize they must exist in life with a narrow mindedness that must be intellectually and emotionally stifling. Until this stops you are all doomed!!
Hi Jill, your vlog about VA tech is inspiring. i like your comments about how important how we take accountability for our actions in how we treat others. Interesting I read some of the comments and vlogs, some of them were downright ugly and putdowns especially because you didn't follow the bible quotes or did not follow jesus' way, I wonder if they truly understand what it means to be respectful and kind to others even if they don't agree with you? In fact, I thought you were being bullied. Not cool and very sad. Jill, life is too short. You get it (Signing "understand" from the heart) about the importance of being kind and respectful by making others feel good about themselves. Sometimes we need to set up clear boundaries when we are not treated with kindness and respect rather than be pull into their drama. I wanted to share my thoughts with you Jill. Terri
AWESOME COMMENTS ABOUT LOVE. LOVE IS THE ONLY ANSWER TO CHANGE FOR WHO WE ARE AND IT'S UP TO US TO CHANGE WHO WE ARE WITH ZILLIONS KIND OF LOVES WE HAVE IN OUR HEARTS. ALL KIND OF LOVES ARE ALWAYS CHANGE FOR WHO WE ARE. LOVE IS THE KEY FOR OUR EVERYDAY LIVES TO MAKE A BETTER PERSON FOR WHO WE ARE AND ANIMALS TOO HAVE LOVE. ANIMALS KNOW WHEN U NEED A LOVE THEY COME TO YOU TO SHARE WITH YOU TO MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON AND YOU CAN RETURN BACK TO ANIMALS TO MAKE THEM A BETTER ANIAMLS. LOVE CAN CHANGE FOR WHO YOU ARE ROBERT WOODRUFF
True..I do agree with u..I feel very whoa inspring love your story..My experience..I wish want join with u sharing good help other ppls be peace show love happy...Many enjoy..Forget old past not worth..Start new life,think be strong too love think god make blessng ppls need change..Thansk your sharing
Beautiful Jill and absolute so very true, Yes! Amen to that!! It's so so so sad wrong going on around in this world; we continue to show the loss some good and caring thoughts and help show them you are there to support them from thier wrong doing, mixed up and lost life... God is so good and God loves everyone of you! Please try to talk to God daily and you will recieves his blessings!! God will stand behind you while you are with those who needs help!
Wow there are s small world that your speaking are correct about volience from Media so that's why we are working on to get a copyright from my an agent for helping Media to learn how to film about loving the world like a comedy or love story or respect others. That would help the world better. I liked a movie called Mrs Doubtfire. No volience and nasty. One of the day, we will be successful into the Media to help the world better! and Health! God may bless you all! Al Pace
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True....when I do something nice, kind, and good to someone else, I feel so good! =) We need more random acts of kindness daily to anyone who needs it including self. ;)
Yes... we all are bullies and victims at one or more times in our lives. I wonder how deep influence our actions impact other people we interact with. What hurts the most is the failure to acknowledge of the parents' admiting that their own children are not perfect... I say my kids are not perfect and I make my kids aware that whatever they decide to do a negative thought or a negative action, it leaves a scar.
No parents like to admit that their children are bullies or victims. God only knows what happened to Cho when he was growing up... I have no anger at Cho, just mostly sadness that somehow we failed him.
The main responsibility starts at home... setting an example for our children.
I absolutely agree with you.
Joe
Thank you for the gentle reminder. It is beautiful and soothing to watch you talking about love. We need that love everyday.
My mom always say to see through all kind of people with love as simple as that. I added animals and nature to her favorite comment. :-)
Oh, everyday I try my best.
I am happy to say that I will reunite with my family this weekend for wedding.
Looking forward to your more vlogging.
Very true. It takes a village to raise a child.
These children who committed murders in their schools were reported to be heavily bullied and rejected by their peers. More school officials, realizing that bullying isn't the harmless rite of passage previously thought, are taking active measures to combat bullying. Obviously they need to be more proactive. Parents also need to supervise their children and be quick to stop any bullying. The parents also need to watch their own behavior, since often children imitate them.
Acts of kindness do go a long way and we all need to do this more often to our family, friends, and acquaintances.
eautiful, Jill. Beautiful.
My heart is full.
~ LaRonda
I am not perfect person, I had goose bump already when you talked about "A World in Need of Love." Beautifully!
I am bemused... from what happened yesterday.
There is a family who ***HATES*** my family... why I don't know... only mother and her two kids. Father is nice. I had not seen them for months and I thought there was an opportunity to make peace, move on... the mother was very cold, snubbing me. I had to wave in her face to say hi... and I was like, come on, hatred is a waste of emotion, but she still chooses to hate us. Her children despise my children also... I waved at them, and they stuck their nose in the air and walked past us. My 6 year old daughter looked at me and asked why they were so mean to us. I said it was easier to be mean than to be kind for certain people and that there was nothing we could do about it.
So I know that it is the families who pass down the emotions and the philosophies. Some people have no problems with prejudices and reflect on the children, such as bullying, etc. So have "villages" to raise children is often a challenging task, but can be done when we acknowledge we are prejudged, etc., but desire to arise above it and be willing to take a risk to be open to love, respect, generous, etc. The openness scares us... makes us look and feel vulnerable and that is where we get hurt the most.
I have been taking the risks with my children... NOT to hate. NOT to judge. Etc. I just feel sad that other families don't see that, that they are fine until disasters hit.
Believe me, my family has its share of disasters so I know life is full of risks and sometimes not fair. It is how we choose to live.
You are right. We need to look at ourselves and be aware of our role in perpetuating an environment in which these kinds of things happen. It is always easier to blame things on others -- not to take responsibility. Nice vlog!
Wow, I was floored and goose bumped! You have made the most awesome clarification of "A World in Need of Love"! Some of you may not realize the reality when you "point a finger at someone else" you are more likely to be pointed at three times more than you have pointed at someone else, why? When your finger is pointing at someone else, how many fingers are pointing at yourself? 3! Saying something positive or negative is a powerful contagious. Keep it rolling with VLOGs, Jill!
I am continuing to keep influencing others with my smiles, and tell the "hello's" and "how are you?" to strangers, the more I do this, I felt stronger.
Karen,
I would like to ask you directly, did the family tell you that they hate you with the words. Sometimes people snub at one another because they feel very hurt and cannot talk to the person. Sometimes we assume that whenever the person does not want to say hi, we immediately think that this person hates us. We have a lot of assumptions and sometimes they are not true. We could find out but sometimes we cannot and it is lingering in our minds and that makes us feel uncomfortable not knowning why this person snubbed at us. For what??
You either have to decide if you still want to pursue that friendship with this family or decide to cut ties with them. If your children want to be friends with this family's friends, then I can see how hard it can be.
I think sometimes we need a lesson in friendship and how to forgive and move on. I notice that sometimes whenever we make mistakes, people hold on it and dwell for a long time and not want to be friends with you, you feel as if you have made an enemy with them. I'm not sure if it happens in the hearing world or not.
Perhaps maybe we all could learn what makes a good friend and how to be a good friend even though we may disagree or whatever.
Yes, they did tell us they wanted a war with my family (face to face.) I emailed to the mother, asking to sit down and talk with her, several times, but she avoided answering my emails; instead she called my children liars, etc... that was last fall. I even apologized for any wrongdoings I might have done. My son wrote an email to her, apologizing and asking to be friends with the children who rejected his apology. The problem is their shildren who keeps saying that my children were mean to them (my daughter is 6 years old, a tiny girl, and my son attended ISD for a short time before going mainstreaming and he avoided them like a plaque, and their kids are 13 and 9 years old, bigger than my kids.) ISD informed me that the mother made a lot of reports against my children in the past year. I recently learned that they also made enemies of another family, so I realized it is not us... it is them.
My concern is how long the mother and the children would carry grudge against people they don't like.
Either I cut the ties... I am human and I see people human beings, so I naturally say hello and have small talks, let bygones be bygones.
Oh well.
Remember where Love come from? Love come from God. God is Love. Jesus Loves everyone no matter who are they. John 3:16/ We should love them as we love Jesus. Amen!
Good message, Jill. Althought I knew you at Gallaudet, I never knew you became a reverend. Congrats, Jill. While I am not into religion, but your message was inspiring and just what we need!
I will share some of this in my vlog. From a teacher's perspective. A lot of correlation to what Mishka Zena said.
Spoken so true.
Spread the love!
:)
Thank you, Jill!!
I am guilty of my own errors that has caused some upsetting feelings!
I do try to recognize them and rectify my actions.
Children are the product of the environment - especially in school because they spend more time there than at home.
So relationships with the teachers are critical.
The first two years of our oldest son's middle schools were just awful.
Attitudes were terrible on both sides - us and the teachers based on my son.
It got worse and worse.
This year? Much better although he still fails his classes but MY attitudes towards the teachers and the administration has improved greatly. I even saw the former assistance principal that I often got into arguments with for threatening my son at the hair salon yesterday, teasing him about his haircut and should go bold and be bald! He laughed and you could see his blue eyes glowing! :D
As a result, there is no stress or ill feelings on both sides.
Instead of finger-pointing and complaining - we try to come up with solutions for him.
It's not easy when you have a smart teenage kid who generally thinks people suck and school is useless.
But we keep trying anyway. Our other children are very kind, loving and considerate people.
But when they hit middle school - things change very rapidly.
Attitude is a big key.
Karen - I am SO sorry you had to go through that. No one should go through that.
Unfortunately after attempts have been made - the only thing you can do for your children is to cut your ties with them but no personal attacks on them. It hurts knowing they would talk nasty behind your back and through their children.
No one should be telling you HOW to raise your children like that stranger deaf mother at the mall.
You are just as valuable as the rest of us, so don't give up your blogging/vlogging.
I just needed a break because of negatives filling up in my heart and I knew that is NOT good for the deaf community.
I need to step back and re-analyze myself - my thoughts and feelings.
Thanks, Jill, for the powerful message! :)
Hey...I love you all!
That is OK. It is my first time to have enemy... never experienced it before. It is not a comfortable feeling.
There are many cool people to meet anyway ;-)
To Commenters and Karen: Here's my response.
Jill...
My comment: http://my.videoegg.com/video/dyCOqC
Basically what happened in VA was bascially "sin". We are all sinners. Bible teaches No, not one is good on earth. We born sin and we hate God. We must realize it is our origin sin and we need to be saved through Christ alone. Jesus defeated the power of sin by dying and raising from death. What happened in Va is basically this man who shot people is sinner just like us. We are all sinners.
Jill,
Everything you say is truly beautiful and true!
"The Golden Rule" is best
reminder for every human
being to recite every day
in the morning: "Do unto
others as they do unto us."
If everyone practices it,
we would see no hate around
us."
On another note, I wish
you were seen around much
more often as humanly as
possible. We need Deaf Oprah.
Hi Jill,
Your comment makes sense. I agree that we are all created to serve and be served in unselfish love. Many of us forgot about it. It is easy for us to give it up. We need to remind ourselves about it every second!!!
Thank you so much for sharing yours with us all. We need to be reminded occasionally.
Deafchip
Karen,
I am so sorry to learn about your experience. I saw your kids in your last vlogs. They are so wonderful kids.
About the family trying to hurt you and your family in many ways, I am glad you alrady made them aware that they are always welcome to you and your family. It's up to them to come or not.
I am sorry about your recent incident that made you decide not to use blog and vlog. I really enjoyed reading yours. Hope one day you will!
Take care
Deafchip
My eyes are filled with tears and my heart is filled with inspiration. Sigh ... in my work I see so much violence, and we do need more people like you. Thank you for sharing your gift of love.
Julie Rems-Smario
Jill:
You are such an angel :)
Karyn
Tim- Servant in Jesus,
Please look at the messages from
Jesus Chirst's ambassdor
Jane Bielfeldt
Deafsign
They are telling so TRUTH!!
Amen!
Jill is giving a false testimony. She is defintely need recollect why,where,how,what,and why is she doing this. I pray for her to see the whole truth very soon. I m more than happy to explain the clear message from the Bible.
Jill, what you say was very much in harmful not a harmony for everyone.
God still is loving and waiting for you to ask his beloved son (Jesus Christ) as you personal savior. I Timothy 2:5
Hi, Hi, Hi Jill! Karen Griffard Putz here! It's good to see you on video and your path in life!
Hi Jill.. Thank you so much for educating us. You did a good job! I am gay and I've been suffering all my life from the bullies. I forgive them, know they are confuse, some church teach them to hate us.
Thanks once again. You're beautiful!
You made me goose bumps! Oh, yes! We need to get together to work for the best education for our Deaf children!
You did touched my heart! Thank you so much for expressing this WORLD IN NEED OF LOVE!!! It takes a village to get the Deaf children to have good education by respect, listen to their hearts, mind and spirit!
Beautiful job, Jill! Shawn
Hi Jill
I really really really enjoyed watching your vlog. Many good, inspiring, encouraging points! You know how to reach many of us. That is important. I like the way you explained things which have held my attention. Clear and meaningful.
We are all human and try to think and do things positively and move on despite negativism lurking or floating around in the deaf community. Too often, deaf people listen to twisted /wrong information and gossip instead of checking for any truth. We learn to ignore or avoid put-downs, negative criticisms, and silent treatments... You have opened a door that has given us a lot of hope and encouragement. Positivism is very powerful. Look forward to seeing more of your vlogs AND John's humorous vlogs!!! You both are very fortunate to have each other. smile
~ Just Deaf
Tim, Deafsign
If you want to do what you want to do, please feel free to set up your own blog/ vlogsite. Keep in mind it is Jill's blogssite. It is the way she does to reach us. Thank you.
Hi Karen
I saw and read your comments... It sure hurts when someone refuses to sit down and sort out the differences with you. I went through the same experiences with a few negative persons in our deaf community. It is very painful when you couldn't achieve a closure or resolve a problem before you could move on.... Some one told me. It is THEIR problem so I had to move on...
And I really enjoy your blogs/ vlogs and love you so much for the way you respect your two children's wishes. It was the same thing when I wanted to leave a residential school for the deaf and to be with my family, and my parents respected my wish. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was much happier at home than at the residential school for the deaf. Hope we will see more of your vlogs and blogs.
I realized there are at least two Karens... I meant Karen Mayes. Sorry about the mix up.
What doesn't kills ya makes ya a stronger person!!!
JILL, WELL SAID AND BEAUTIFUL! IF YOU HAVE TIME, CHECK INTO THE POEM, "DO YOU KNOW THE WORLD IS DYING FOR A LITTLE BIT OF LOVE?" BY EDWARD O. EXCELL. IT GOES WELL WITH WHAT YOU SAID. AGAIN,JILL IT WAS WELL SAID AND BEAUTIFUL JAY
I agree with Susan. We cannot love one another without God. Impossible. We are sinners. No one wants to love one another or love God. God sent his Son, Jesus to die and take our sins so we can have the eternal life. Through Christ, we learn to love others and have grace for others. The scripture says no one can do nothing without Christ alone.
Christ Alone can enable us to understand love.
Jill, I challenge you look in His Word to be sure. His word is inspiring more than earthy love.
Yes, I enjoy your word.
I'd like to challenge
your husband with a
question.
Why John blames
commenters?
What about some bloggers
who write offensive blogs?
Understand what I mean?
yes yes yes excatly what happen to me i was warning to old friends dont doing it... there is go... fact look at chao what happen... i remmy i was happy almost five years ago and i was angry... myself dont beleive picky on people cause the word "picky" can leaf volient (wrong spell ) smile.... true we need change and be love next door... thank u for your speaking to us.... we love u!!! smile scott d burley
ooops my mistake not mean happy it mean happen... sorry smile scott d burley
i absolutely argee with u all to love someone and forgive each other smile! to help someone who needs surpot!
Hello,
I learned that in America, we all are allowed to have guns as long as we are 18, register and practice shooting then voila! We get the gun! While in other country, guns are strictly banned except to those who are in the military. How sad is that?! Which means, any one could simply walk in the gun store and buy one! My opinion, the age 18 should change to, maybe, 30's depending on his/her maturity (I mean emotionally AND mentally).
Thank you so much for spreading this out...it reminds us of love the whole world once had.
Guns don't kill people. People kill people.
Gun Control Law won't work because if the guns are outlawed, only the outlaws will have guns, thus making the gun-less people sitting ducks.
All colleges and universities in Utah the teachers and students are allowed to carry concealed guns to classes, etc. Had the students at Va Tech been allowed to carry concealed guns, the magnitude of tragedy would have been much, much smaller.
The trouble with America is that it is on border with lawless Mexico. The smugglers bring in drugs and illegal guns. Mentally unfit people and criminal-minded/felonious people buy guns from those smugglers, which makes the Gun Control Law unworkable.
Gun Control Law works effectively in Great Britain because it has the sea all around it, which makes extremely difficult for smugglers to bring in illegal guns.
To sum 'em up, EVERYONE needs JESUS, the one who loves us all.
HI~TAT'S BEAUTIFUL!BUT THERES MORE QUESTIONS THAT CAN NOT BE ANSWERS AT ALL!
AS WELL I WORKED WITH PEOPLE for LONGEST TIME N STILL DO. ITS JUST THE MENTALLY ITSELF THAT BOND DEPENDS WHERE YO AT.
REMEMBER THAT WE ARE NOT PERFECT<<<
BUT WE JUST KEEP TRY OUR BEST TO REACH OUT THEIR LOVE~
IT'S NOT THAT EASY!!!
CUZ CUZ THAT'S THE WAY IT GOES BY!!
~;>)----
GOD BLESS YO TO SHARIN OUT WORLD!!
IT DOES CHILL ME...
PEACE BE WITH YO AND ALL
deafShirke
Jill, your vlog about love is the most powerful, beautiful, and smooth message that u share with us all. About Cho, I empathy him and only God know what chaused him to do things like that. My believe is that society has failed him because he has been screaming for help and we ingore him. I sure hope this example will wake all of us up and change our behavior and thinking toward others and be kind to each other that way we all will live better. Keep up good work, Jill.
Interesting to listen what did you tell us and I agree about gun,volience, fight,lack of law regualtion in USA/Canada! We still help each other and love each other and for frusate people to be risk unless we may listen to them for possibly life.
Yes, Jill. It's either love or fear. Whenever anyone thinks, speaks (signs), or acts with fear, that person is crying for love.
Speaking of love -- I wonder how many people have thought about what love really means. We talk about the qualities of love, such as patience, forgiveness, compassion, kindness, gentleness, generosity, goodness, acceptance, non-judgement, openness,etc. But exactly what is love? I think that just about everyone of us think of love as a feeling, but is that it?
I've come across two definitions that have really helped broaden my understanding of love and our Oneness -- our being one with the Divine Creator , and I would like to share them with you all. Love is defined as a "unifying force" as well as "divine power." Since we are all divine (one in Spirit) and love is our true nature, we have the power to create harmony/unity when we think, say, or do with love. With love, we create miracles. A simple example is smiling at someone, and that someone's face lit up -- and I'm lifted, too. There's a moment of feeling oneness in both of us. That moment of connectedness is God. Remember God is love -- and we, in God's image, are also love.. That moment of connectedness is heaven. It is unity. It is love. What I do unto another person, I do unto myself because we're one. Seeing yourself in another person and treating that person equally is love. A unifying experience! I guess I could ramble on, but I won't. Smile.
Love and peace to you all.
Namaste,
Hilda
PS Here's another quote from Deepak Chopra about love:
"The essence of love isn't a feeling -- it is a state of being. Or to be more exact, it is a state in which you are in contact with Being."
PSS Helen Schuchman, a clinical psychologist, was the scribe of ACIM. She did not claim it to be her work. It was an inner dictation from Jesus. At first, she did not want to admit it, but finally she did admit that it was so. In case anyone is interested, there's a book about her life and her experience in scribing ACIM. The title of the book is Absence from Felicity by Kenneth Wapnick.
Hilda... you raised a good point.
Decades ago, my father and I talked about love (you know, birds and bees) and he said that while love could be an emotion, it was also an action. Kindness, gentleness, caring, peace, etc., are all actions of love. If we don't act on them, we lose love.
Hmmm...
Good morning Karen and all,
Another food for your thought on love by Thomas Merton -- I got this from a friend recently.
"Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone - we find it with another." ~Thomas MertonI drink Yogi tea sometimes. Each teabag always has a string with a little tag attached to it. On each tag there's word of spiritual wisdom printed on it. Recently I read one that said: "We live for others."
In ACIM, it is emphasized that every relationship (any kind of connection) we have with everyone is a holy encounter. What I do to another is what I do unto myself and God. Everyone of us is sacred (our spiritual selves that have existed with God from the beginning). We're all connected -- inseparable. If we all could see this and practice love, heaven would be here on earth.
Blessings,
Hilda
Hilda... that reminds me of the movie I recently saw "The Celestine Prophecy"... that there is heaven on the earth if we only knew how to achieve it and that there are many people who prevent it from happening...
I too drink Yogi tea ;-)... mostly green tea.
Hi Jill--
So good to see you since I saw you couple of years ago and you still look great :-)
Yes, I agree that the world needs LOVE, LOVE, LOVE. Our former neighbor created the problems on us for about 4 years and that put us very stressful and our kids showing emotions until they had to move out due to divorce. Now I notice that we are more relaxed and happy that there was no problems between them and us. Shortly after they had to transfer one of their daughters to different school, I learned that their mom told that daughter that (I can not quote exactly what the mother said but from what I understand) that next Monday was her first day at another new school and that daughter could not talk with black kids at all. That made me realize that she was a racist which means she has another "hateful" for deafies??? (same thing) and I wonder what if that daughter had a black teacher and she could not talk to her at all that would make things worse for daughter, mother and school.
Yes, for guns...I have a fear if anyone plays with it no matter what.
Jill, I hope to see you again in person real soon. Take care..CJ
Its was very beautifully, and make me feel so chill it as you are very brillant to story abt this situation...
hope they will learn abt this happened...
Karen, how was the movie "The Celestine Prophecy?" I read the book long time ago, but I haven't seen the movie, yet.
Achieve heaven on earth?? This will happen when we all realize and accept who we really are. We are not who we are physically in form today; we are spiritual beings inseparable from the Great Spirit from the beginning walking on earth in physical forms. When we realize it and accept this as our true identity, we have no need to fear anymore. With this self-realization, our perception changes and love prevails. Then we experience heaven on earth. It is not work that we must do to achieve it. It is awakening to our true nature of divinity and reclaiming it.
Oh, so you drink green tea, too. Let's get together and have green tea someday. Smile.
Namaste,
Hilda
For our Beautiful Love,
Wow, your spiritual comment for world in need of love is a powerful message.... how you share your love and peaceful thoughts about what/why we are responsible for chaos and what/H.O.W. we can do to transform from hatred to LOVE are so intoxicating... I cried when I watched you...Thank you John for suggesting us to watch her vlog...
Thank you GOD for creating you as DEAF people to share love kindness and peace, we as DEAF people are in Need to Learn all about your words of LOVE in sign language..if you were hearing, I would MISS the important message! This is what John is trying to tell us in his UNITY the community vlog... Thank you Jill (my Lora) and John for being REAL.
H.O.W. we cultivate the world with LOVE?
By Honest
OpenMindness
Willingness
to forgive ourselves and everyone for the wrongs and the hurt, we do it sometimes when we are stressed, frustrated, angry, put down, but always can forgive and start again this is where LOVE grows. When we do it, keep the Forgiveness and LOVE in our mind, heart, and body. Practice daily. It only takes 10 mins every morning and 10 mins every night out of 24 hours..Thats all it takes! Forgive Cho for hurting us but we begin with forgiving ourselves first then the Peace will begin.
I am so grateful to have you in my spiritual journey and I hope there will be many more footsteps coming our way. "Until we meet again, I will hold my tears of LOVE"
Namaste,
Sheri XO
thank you for a strong message. too many people put the blame everywhere else but themselves. We need to look in the mirror and start with outselves. It is never alright to bring down another human being to make ouselves feel good. We must respect and accept everyone for who they are and do no harm. It is time for people to be responsible for their own selves.
Jill,
As I watched this vlog, you really inspired me.
There were some times that I put other people down and there were some times that other people put me down. Some of the grudges in between them and myself have not been solved.
Your message made me think about what I need to do to forgive them and to give love, no matter what.
This is a very powerful message and everyone need to watch this vlog.
Thank you for opening up our minds.
Lee
PS - I would LOVE to meet you someday! :)
When my friend sent me your blog. You made me reazlie a lot of things what s happening around here. I am a single mother and deaf. I have a 8 years old daughter. I teach her about the love, attitude, respect and life. Also I recently lost a close friend and how can I continue being friendship with my close friend?? Her boyfriend dosent let us seeing each others no more and I feel that he is punishing me for the everything I did wrong to them but I felt that it was not my fault 100% and just happened that way. I wish to ask him to change his mind and let me continue my friendship with his girlfriend. Tell me how can I do that??
You North Americans have a strange concept of morality. You allow your children to watch the
most vile and disgusting violence, yet get upset if the same children are exposed to the sight of a
woman's breasts. You encourage then to play with toys that mimic warfare and destruction, but
ban the concept of sex education in your schools. You teach them that sex for pleasure is evil, but
explain to me why you have the worst incidences of sex related crimes in the world. You teach
them to show no tolerance to people that are "different", sexually, racially, philosophically. Your
children grow up unwilling to learn about others, to learn that the differences in people are what
make them special. You attack that which you don't understand and are not willing to understand.
I feel pity for these people, not contempt, as I realize they must exist in life with a narrow
mindedness that must be intellectually and emotionally stifling.
Until this stops you are all doomed!!
Hi Jill,
your vlog about VA tech is inspiring. i like your comments about how important how we take accountability for our actions in how we treat others. Interesting I read some of the comments and vlogs, some of them were downright ugly and putdowns especially because you didn't follow the bible quotes or did not follow jesus' way, I wonder if they truly understand what it means to be respectful and kind to others even if they don't agree with you? In fact, I thought you were being bullied. Not cool and very sad. Jill, life is too short. You get it (Signing "understand" from the heart) about the importance of being kind and respectful by making others feel good about themselves. Sometimes we need to set up clear boundaries when we are not treated with kindness and respect rather than be pull into their drama. I wanted to share my thoughts with you Jill.
Terri
AWESOME COMMENTS ABOUT LOVE.
LOVE IS THE ONLY ANSWER TO CHANGE FOR WHO WE ARE AND IT'S UP TO US TO CHANGE WHO WE ARE WITH ZILLIONS KIND OF LOVES WE HAVE IN OUR HEARTS. ALL KIND OF LOVES ARE ALWAYS CHANGE FOR WHO WE ARE. LOVE IS THE KEY FOR OUR EVERYDAY LIVES TO MAKE A BETTER PERSON FOR WHO WE ARE AND ANIMALS TOO HAVE LOVE. ANIMALS KNOW WHEN U NEED A LOVE THEY COME TO YOU TO SHARE WITH YOU TO MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON AND YOU CAN RETURN BACK TO ANIMALS TO MAKE THEM A BETTER ANIAMLS. LOVE CAN CHANGE FOR WHO YOU ARE
ROBERT WOODRUFF
True..I do agree with u..I feel very whoa inspring love your story..My experience..I wish want join with u sharing good help other ppls be peace show love happy...Many enjoy..Forget old past not worth..Start new life,think be strong too love think god make blessng ppls need change..Thansk your sharing
Very powerful message; reminds me of, "I Shall Not Pass This Way Again".
Beautiful Jill and absolute so very true, Yes! Amen to that!! It's so so so sad wrong going on around in this world; we continue to show the loss some good and caring thoughts and help show them you are there to support them from thier wrong doing, mixed up and lost life... God is so good and God loves everyone of you! Please try to talk to God daily and you will recieves his blessings!! God will stand behind you while you are with those who needs help!
Wow there are s small world that your speaking are correct about volience from Media so that's why we are working on to get a copyright from my an agent for helping Media to learn how to film about loving the world like a comedy or love story or respect others. That would help the world better. I liked a movie called Mrs Doubtfire. No volience and nasty. One of the day, we will be successful into the Media to help the world better! and Health!
God may bless you all!
Al Pace
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